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The Law of Attraction says: That which is like unto itself is drawn.

So it’s easy to understand why someone would be concerned that if they are feeling a particular emotion that they would start drawing more of that into their life.

A few days ago someone asked the following question:

On the one hand I believe quite strongly that emotions should be expressed to clear them out, I am not sure how this sits with the law of attraction though since when you are on a negative frequency you need to change it to a positive. Is this ignoring your feelings, repressing them??? Or do you let anger, sadness run its course or would it attract more of the same??
Thanks!

I don’t think repressing emotions is ever a good thing… they are showing up to serve us and guide us. To me, repressing them would be like removing the gas gauge in your car… sure, you could just set up a plan to fill your tank every couple of days, but it’s so much easier to have an indicator giving you a gauge so you can decide in the moment whether or not it’s convenient for you to get gas.

On the other hand, the way I would interpret “letting them run their full course” would be like looking at your gas gauge and deciding to disregard what it says, instead simply letting yourself drive until you run out of gas altogether and then hiking to the gas station to get more.

Instead, why not let yourself feel them, acknowledge them, and then use them to get clear about what you want… and then turn your attention to what you want and bask in the anticipation of that. ;-)

The questioner then said:

I guess I should have stated that I wasn’t thinking so much about myself as an adult but more about children. I have been reading some literature recently about ‘parenting by connection’ I love its ideas, which to summarize are that children should be allowed to cry/be angry/tantrum and that you remain with them ensuring that they know you love them. You still set limits and boundaries but they are allowed to cry/tantrum about it whilst you consistently reinforce the limit but with loving intentions. I have noticed that when doing this my children are much more loving/connected/positive after they have been allowed to express emotions, I haven’t yet noticed that in children it attracts more of the same, i.e more sadness/anger etc. On occasions when I don’t listen to their emotions they are ‘on the edge’ seem frustrated etc, have difficulties socializing, maybe being so young they are unable to change their frequency easily. Perhaps the ability to change frequency is a maturity thing that we learn??? I really connected with the ideas but also being a LOA fan I wasn’t sure how/where or if they crossed over.

I certainly agree that children (or anyone for that matter) be allowed to express and fully feel what they’re feeling… as an Early Childhood Specialist with a degree in Child Psychology and 25+ yrs direct work with children (as well as my own parenting experiences) I see every moment as a ‘teaching’ moment… and by teaching I don’t necessarily mean imparting information a child may not know… I focus more on reminding a child of what they do or may know and inviting them to question what that might mean to them.

Kids have been GREAT teachers for me… they are quite easy about realizing that their emotions are there to guide them… so in fact, I would probably say the opposite of the statement “Perhaps the ability to change frequency is a maturity thing that we learn???” because in my experience and observation, grownups have a far, far harder time changing frequency than children… who haven’t yet trained themselves away from their inner guidance to the degree older people have.

Until some ‘well-meaning’ adult starts laying ‘judgment’ on their emotional responses… it wouldn’t occur to a child that there was anything ‘wrong’ with crying when they feel sad or shouting when they feel mad…. and because of that, they don’t attract more ‘sad’ or ‘mad’ or whatever, as they simply flush out what they’re feeling and start moving in the direction of what they want next.

We would do well to emulate them in this ;-)